Dealing with Haters (or Bashers)
September 25, 2014
I just had a sumptuous meal, starting my day right and then saw a comment from one social media user on another user that she is ugly. The
giver doesn't even know the receiver personally. We were always told
that one's character is more important than good looks, right? And
that's what I thought too.
Out of curiosity, I checked out the guy's profile and true enough, he is definitely not good-looking either. To have the audacity to belittle someone still shocks me. But I should not be surprised that these days, those who lack beauty in physical aspect or mediocre in their skills or talents gain satisfaction by hating someone he or she is not capable of being or doing. If ugly people can say ugly things to someone who is obviously more beautiful than him, or better than him, then this world seems f*cked up. But such is the harsh reality of life in the world we live now.
Out of curiosity, I checked out the guy's profile and true enough, he is definitely not good-looking either. To have the audacity to belittle someone still shocks me. But I should not be surprised that these days, those who lack beauty in physical aspect or mediocre in their skills or talents gain satisfaction by hating someone he or she is not capable of being or doing. If ugly people can say ugly things to someone who is obviously more beautiful than him, or better than him, then this world seems f*cked up. But such is the harsh reality of life in the world we live now.
Okay,
we've all been guilty of this probably at one point. Even I did try to
compare myself to others in the past. Looked at other girls and thought I
was better. But people grow up and change. To find beauty in every
person or situation makes me feel better now.
The
thing with technology is that while it has simplified our lives for the
better, it also became a breeding ground for hatred and negative people
to go wild with their shaming-spree. The promise of anonymity also
attracts other people to carelessly throw insensitive comments on one's
appearance, quality of work and even the falling of a leaf just to make a
point how irrelevant it may seem. Just so much opinions are thrown left
and right even when they don't seem to matter at all.
So how do you handle these kind of people? I-G-N-O-R-E.
No matter how hard it may seem. Even if you may cry a little or think
of it for two or even five minutes. Even if it won't allow you to eat
your cake right away because you felt bad after hearing it. Just let it go. You need to remember that while opinion of others matter, it is your opinion of yourself which truly matters.
Haters
gonna hate. That's for sure. But you must also make sure to love
yourself and detach yourself from this negativity brought to you by
these lonely, insecure and obviously needing love from other human
beings. So yes, all they need is LOVE just like anyone else. Send them
more love by praying for their sanity-- that they may get it back and
never leave them again.
Look
at the world we live in-- there are enough hatred already. So next time
one person tells you you're ugly, look at the person saying that to
you. I'm 90% sure, he or she is out of your league or worst, uglier or
mediocre than you. They probably hate the kind of life you live, the
smile you have in your face, envious of your success or wish they were
on your shoes. These people, to take time in making you feel crap, now
that was quite an effort! You should feel even honored you were worthy
of the attention. Some people in their effort to be the best, forget how
it is like to be kind to others.
Now, smile and thank God you wouldn't have to pull others down just to make yourself feel better because you already feel at your best.
Now, smile and thank God you wouldn't have to pull others down just to make yourself feel better because you already feel at your best.
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